How to Make a Second Marriage Click

Posted on December 13, 2007 in Marriage Advice, Marriage Divorce, Marriage Problems

It is always difficult to get back to the normal mental state after your first marriage ties have broken. However, it does not essentially mean that the first relationship should always be considered a failed one. Many valid reasons work behind a divorce. Generally, divorcees today opt for a second marriage, especially if they are still young. It is true that the shadow of the past keeps haunting and the mind will be full of apprehension, but this is not so, if one does not feel guilty of his former separation. If you are a divorcee going for remarriage, here are a few things to be borne in mind before and after marriage.

Never rest on the past - What has been is gone. Understand that marriage is still a sacred relationship. Do not ever bring up into family discussions what happened in your previous marriage. If you really want to share it, do it before marriage, and only if your fiancé asks for it.

Shed your pessimism – It is usual that people who remarry often have a feeling somewhere in the back of their minds that since the first marriage ended, the second one will somehow not work very well. Let the freshness of a new life be in you. Tell yourself that whatever mistakes have happened in the past will not happen here.

Love your new spouse - See him/her as a friend and not as a substitute. Spend as much time as you can with your spouse so that the marriage will be grounded in trust and understanding from the very beginning.

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