Tips for a Healthy Marriage

Posted on April 5, 2008 in Marriage Advice, Tips for A Husband, Tips for A Wife

No marriage runs on its own. The partners have to work on it. So building and maintaining a healthy marriage takes time and effort. With the day-to-day pressures of work, children and chores it can be easy to neglect to nurture your relationship and to take your mate for granted. This guide offers basic tips to help you build a successful marriage every day:

Learn to communicate effectively.

Communication is perhaps the most important key to a strong, healthy relationship. Be an active listener— and listen without being judgemental—as well as expressing your own feelings in a positive, truthful way.

Make time for each other.

Make time for meaningful conversations in a setting free of distractions.

Fight fair.

An important part of resolving conflicts is being respectful of your partner’s feelings, even when you are arguing. Let your partner know you value what he or she is saying, even if you don’t agree.

Avoid criticizing, ridiculing, dismissing or rejecting your partner or what he or she is saying.

If you’re feeling your anger is taking over, take a time out from the conversation and agree to resume it at a specific time later.

Make a commitment to your relationship.

Make your relationship with your partner a priority in your life. No matter how busy you are, make time to spend quality time together, even if you have to schedule out specific time slots on your calendars. Celebrate each other’s accomplishments together and support each other during harder times.

Express appreciation.

Saying thank you can go a long way toward making your partner feel special and appreciated. Even though you may feel that your partner knows you care, it doesn’t hurt to say thanks—even for every day things like cooking dinner, putting the kids to bed, or taking out the trash.

Maintain a sense of humor.

Laugh often with your mate and be willing to laugh at yourself. Maintaining a sense of humor can relieve stress and tension, and help you get through a difficult time together.

Learn to compromise.

Compromise is important in any relationship, but it’s especially important in a marriage.

If you disagree on an issue, discuss the problem calmly, allow each person to explain his or her point of view, and look for ways to meet each other in the middle.

Practice forgiveness.

While it’s okay to be angry, it’s also important to then let go of the anger and move on. If you constantly bring up past hurts, it’s difficult to have a mutually loving relationship.

Keep romance alive.

Relationships are often romantic in the beginning, but as time passes and couples become distracted by other things—work, children, bills, the house—they often take each other for granted. Make your partner feel special by doing something romantic, no matter how small.

Take time for yourself.

It’s normal for couples to have different hobbies, interests and friends. While it’s important to spend quality time with each other, it’s equally important to spend time alone or with friends.

Source: NYCU

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