Risks in Remarriages

Posted on April 29, 2008 in Marriage Advice, Marriage Divorce, Marriage Problems

Every marriage has its own risks but remarriages have greater risks in breaking down because the partners have the likelihood of carrying their past with them.

The greater part of our life is lived through assumptions rather than living by the moments. Most people want a marriage that will last until death.

Our past usually influences our expectations of marriage. Marriage expectations are social in nature. We want certain things in our relationship which we saw and liked in other relationships forgetting that certain things are peculiar to the relationships itself. Usually people want their marriage to be something like that of their parents’ if that is a successful one or something they have read somewhere or seen in a movie etc.

When the first marriage does not live up to our expectations we may expect our new remarriage to be a dream marriage. Studies say that inspite of great expectations it is unfortunate that couples marrying for the first time have a 50% chance of getting divorced. There is further risk of 60% divorce rate in remarriages and specially for remarried couples with stepchildren.

Personality traits like impulsivity, neuroticism, addiction etc. increase the chances of divorce. In re-marriages we will find the following characteristics:

Note: Remarriages are not always a failure and there will always be risks in marriages because of various reasons like job uncertainties, poverty, mental and sexual health etc.

There are umpteen numbers of cases where remarriages are successful. Couples need to bear in mind that marriage does not work on its own, partners have to work on it.

Marriage is more than showing affection for each other. It needs effective communication to handle conflicts and disagreements. Problems will certainly arise everywhere and anywhere, be prepared to handle them. don’t think that remaining married means living happily. People have lot many reasons to continue in a dysfunctional marriage.

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