What Makes Remarriages Successful?

Posted on April 29, 2008 in Marriage Advice, Marriage Problems

There is no formula for success in marriages. It all depends on how much the partners are willing to put in.

Differences are a reality. In a good marriage the partners appreciate each other’s differences and work towards finding a middle path or common goal. Re-marriages will always be successful, if couples realize that marriages are to be worked upon. Some characteristics of successful remarried couples are mentioned here:

These adults grieve the loss of a partner. They analyze what went wrong and try to bring in changes in their personality. Gradually they overcome grief and start leading a normal life. They realize the urgency to go ahead and seek to build new relationships though not without fear.

These couples understand that it takes time and patience to build new relationships. In remarriages there are other things that complicate the situation like stepchildren.

These couples realize that with love alone things will not run. They take care of their needs and encourage the partner also to take care of himself or herself and this bit is actually telling the other person that how much the other cares for. They start deciding things together to have fun and make the most out of each other’s company.

Differences become obvious because they are observant of each other’s behavior in any occasion. These couples discuss about traditions and routines to find each other’s likes and dislikes. They may also start a new routine recognizing each other’s family traditions etc.

Research shows that the former spouse is looked at with disgust and anger. Suppressed anger and pain do more harm to a person. So people should forgive and forget to improve the quality of their new marital relationship.

Remarriages often involve children so these couples go slow. They work together to make things comfortable for everyone.

These couples work towards balancing work and family needs. They know that nobody is a mind reader so they talk about their expectations. They try to find proper solutions to their problems rather than blaming themselves or others.

Remarriage like any marriage becomes successful with time, communication, and commitment.

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