Are You Getting Married to The Right Person?

Posted on June 11, 2008 in Arranged Marriage, Love Marriage, Marriage Proposals

Marriage is on your cards and you are busy getting yourself the right look for the D-day, the right invitation cards, the right theme and the right venue. But amidst all this, you seem to have forgotten to ask yourself the right question – Am I getting married to the right person?

People, who are madly in love with their partners and intend to marry as soon as possible, would give bewildered looks at the very question. There response would be, “Of course I am. What do you mean? I love her/him and he/she loves me. Would I love him/her and think of marriage if he/she wasn’t right for me.”

First of all, it is important for all of us to realize that we would never find a perfect Prince Charming or Cinderella who would be devoid of all flaws and love us unconditionally. Our objective should not be to find ‘The Perfect’ life partner who will complete us. Instead our objective should be to find a life partner who compliments us and makes our journey of life pleasant, if not easy.

To see if you are marrying the right person ask yourself certain questions like -

  1. Do I connect with him/her on various planes like emotional, intellectual, social, and sexual?
  2. Does he/she make you feel confident, secure and satisfied?
  3. Does he/she accept and appreciate you the way you are? Which means, does he/she love you?
  4. Does he/she give you enough space and freedom to be yourself?
  5. Do you have to work real hard to make him/her happy?
  6. Do you enjoy spending time with him/her? Does he/she bring out the best in you?
  7. Can you work in tandem with him/her to build your nest and raise your kids well?
  8. Does he/she have any quality/qualities that you find absolutely unbearable or difficult to handle? E.g. short temper, Domination, Alcoholism, Selfishness, Cruelty, Illegal or criminal activities, Drugs, Unemployment etc.
  9. Does he/she trust and respect you?
  10. Does he/she cooperate with you? Is he/she open to compromising and adjusting? Are you forthcoming in this matter too?

Whether you are marrying the right person or not will depend on the answers you got for the following questions.

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