How Empathizing Makes Your Wife Feel Loved

Posted on June 23, 2008 in Love Marriage, Tips for A Husband, Tips for A Wife

Women have very different needs from Men. Men’s needs are based on visual senses whereas; women’s needs are based on emotional factors. Satisfying a women’s emotional side makes them feel appreciated and loved.

Women talk to lighten their burdens and feel BETTER. Men on the other hand feel that their wives talks are one big list of complaints and instead of supporting them with empathy they start arguing or giving them suggestions. This aspect puts off women, leaving them more frustrated than ever.

Let us have a look at one conversation that takes place in every household, which often ends up in a fight between the husband and wife.

E.g.: Wife: The new boss never seems to understand me. I don’t know what to do?

        Husband: I told you, you didn’t have to work. Just quit the job and stay at home.
        
        Wife: Why did I even bother to tell you?

        Husband: Now what, why do you look at things so differently. Stop cribbing about things.

In the above conversation we see that the wife feels that her husband did not understand her and the husband on the other hand feels he has done the right thing by advising his wife.  The woman feels anger towards her husband and wonders if he would ever understand her. The man feels surprised because his wife is not thanking him for his advice.

This situation will have a happy ending only if the husband learns to empathize rather than suggesting.

How to deal with the situation

Let us now see how a man can deal with his wife, by just keeping quite and not offering any advice. It is an easy task and with time, one will master this art of conversation.

     Wife: The new boss never seems to understand me. I don’t know what to do?

     Husband: Oh honey you look so tired. Don’t worry your boss will definitely understand what a sweet heart you are. He surely will, just give yourself some time.

     Wife: Honey you are so right. Thanks for the support.

Well, saying these words of empathy will definitely change your way of thinking. Men keep one thing in mind, never ever advice solutions to your wife, when she is complaining. Bite your tongue when you strongly feel the urge to do so.

Empathy is the key word here. Once you have offered your empathy, do something sweet for your wife. She will definitely love it. This is a simple yet powerful way of making your wife feel loved.

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