Easy and Effective Ways To Overcome Jealousy

Posted on July 11, 2008 in Tips for A Husband, Tips for A Wife

The very fact that you have clicked on to this site shows that you have taken the first step towards making an effort in developing your marriage.

Here are some ways that will help you break free from that trapping feeling.

Dress smart: You feel jealous because you feel insecure and fear that your partner will leave you. You concentrate too much on your negative side and qualities. So, stop focusing on your negativities and start focusing on your positive self. Go out, shop smart and dress yourself in real chic clothes. You may fear of your partners reaction but then stop thinking about who thinks what. Get yourself a real good haircut, get out your best clothes and you will not be disappointed. You will feel really good. Your confidence and insecurities will just vanish.

Do something you like the most: So long your mind was filled with the irrational fear of losing your partner. To avoid this negative thoughts start doing something you like the most. Call up old buddies, join the church choir, join a dance class, start writing…there are so many things you can do. The motive here is to keep yourself busy. The busier you are the lesser time you will have to feel jealous.

Change your Thinking Pattern: Every time you are overwhelmed with the fear of loosing your husband/wife infill your mind with something positive Say things like “ I am smart, happy and a good spouse, My partner loves me and I have nothing to fear”. Do this every time you want to question your husband/wife or scream or want to do something hurtful to them.

Stop Chasing Your Partner: The more you try to control your partner, the more they will run away from you. The next time you see your partner talking to someone and you feel the pangs of jealousy gripping you. Just walk over to that person, give them your best smile, say something nice and find yourself someone to talk too. Stop focusing on your negative feeling. Your partner will be really surprised and may be eager to spend time with you noticing the change in you.

There is always so much to do out there. The world is in need of a kind word, a reassuring smile and a kind act. The more you indulge yourself in self-pity the more miserable you will be. The more you give the more you will receive. So start giving more of yourself to the world around you and see how not just your marriage but every relationship blossoms.

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