5 Sure Shot Ways Of Making Your Marriage Successful

Posted on July 17, 2008 in Marriage Advice

Marriage is a beautiful sacrament, in which two individuals become one. This bond is not just about having great sex but living with and accepting an individual with all his positive as well as weak points. A constant compromise with one’s ego, preferences, tastes, lifestyle has to be made.

One may feel, that marriage is a way of throttling one’s freedom. A lane, which once tread has no turning back. But little do they know that there is much joy in giving rather than receiving in a marriage.

Sometimes, couples tend to forget this aspect and are caught in a rut of doubts, self-pity, bitterness and unforgiveness. It is best that they come out of this rut as soon as possible. When there is so much of bitterness amongst themselves, they try to blame it on “Marriage not being exciting anymore”. If the relationship between a couple is good, then living in a hut will also be very exciting for a couple.

Here are some ways that will strengthen the bond between you two and make you better individuals

Try Prayer Power: According to a research conducted by the University of Chicago, couples that prayed everyday were rated to be the happiest. They were ones who discussed their marriage regularly, were able to deal with the stresses of marriage, argued less and worked more towards building their marriage. It is reported that these couples go down on their knees every night and pray a small prayer for all their family members. These couples are ones who are said to respect each other amongst couples that don’t pray.

Do Something Nice: Make it a point to do something nice everyday for your spouse, it may be a simple act of cleaning the bed, or ironing his/her clothes, presenting him/her with a flower, making his/her favorite dish. These simple acts are a meaningful way to say you care.

Spend Some Time Alone: During this time do not discuss the children, the maid, work, family or any other issue. At this time just discuss yourselves. You will be lost initially and may not know what to speak. Do not panic. Start off by talking about how you feel about your self, your marriage and your spouse. Discuss your innermost fears and feelings and you will be surprised about how much you don’t know about your spouse.

Listen To The Other: When your spouse is talking listen to him/her even if you have the strong urge to barge in and say that you are not wrong. Listening is a great way of acknowledging the person. Arguments and fights are a great way of drawing a person closer to you. Next time an argument rises up, be patient and listen to your spouse and later on in a very gentle manner put your point across. Your spouse will be surprised and really impressed by your behavior.

Support Your Spouse: If your spouse wants to do something new or is facing mood swings support them at that time. Also, support your spouse in front of the kids. When there is an argument between the kids and your partner, stand by your spouse. Respect his/her decision. Brag about your spouse in front of friends and relatives. This is indeed a great way of strengthening the bond between you two.

Try these steps out and you will see a difference in your relationship.

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