Wrong Reasons To Get Married

Posted on August 5, 2008 in Marriage Advice, Marriage Problems

Very often one wants to get into marriage thinking that life will change post marriage. Most of the young crowd gets married for security, hope of being loved forever, to have a good time, want to be freed from the control of parents, for sex and various other selfish reasons.

If your intention for marriage is not a serious one, don’t go in for marriage. Think over it.

Getting married just to avoid situations is also a lame excuse. Also, one often wants to get in for marriage when you realize you’re pregnant with a baby. Well, this is also not the right reason to get married. If you do not love the person and want to get married to bring up the baby, you may be surprised to know that your baby may face even more trauma when it sees its parents fighting continuously.

Some individuals think that by getting married they will turn into adults. But getting married at an early age thinking that you would become adults is a disillusioned ticket to maturity.

Getting married to ease loneliness and being happy is a dream that tempts many to get married. But just think about the fact that if you are unhappy and lonely before marriage, how can things change after marriage. If you think your husband/wife will change things, you are wrong. Only you have the key to your happiness, no body can control your life. If you learn to be happy with whatever you have, you will end up being a contended individual in any situation.

Getting married to avoid any form of control from parents will not change things after marriage. What if your husband/wife is more controlling than your parents? What will you do?

Marriage is not about having great sex; yes of course sex will be great for the first few days. But you can’t just sustain only with sex, there is a lot of responsibility that comes with marriage. Your marriage cannot survive on lust for long. Serious, true and committed love is the basis for a successful marriage.

Money is also a wrong reason to get married. Getting married to a person only because of his/her wealth will cause you to repent later on. Money cannot sustain a marriage for long.

Getting married just because the other person loves you is not a substantial reason. Love should be two-way and not one way. Both the individuals should love and respect each other to make the marriage a success.

Marry a person only if you feel genuine love for him/her. Don’t let your reactions just be based on attractions. Marriage is a sacred commitment that has to be faithfully kept. It is a life long promise to stick by each other in good and bad times.

Be smart and make a wise choice, your prudence and persistence will pay off greatly.

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