Spend Time With Yourselves, Inspite Of Being Married

Posted on August 11, 2008 in Marriage Advice, Marriage Problems

There are times, when one should spend time with themselves. This is very essential especially when one is married. It is not necessary that one spend every minute of their with their spouse.

Expecting such a thing would be a great misery. This urge exists in the initial stages while courting each other. When you first fall in love, you are always thinking of your guy/girl and wanting to spend time with him/her.

And slowly after marriage things begin to change and take a completely different turn. After a point of time both the woman and man should stop clinging to each other and spend time rediscovering themselves. Well, you are not asked to live your life in isolation but spend at least 15 minutes in prayer or meditation.

Most often many couples complain about loosing their identity after marriage. Well, this is something that should not happen; instead marriage is about both husband and wife building their identities.

Spending time alone is a good option when one is very angry. This way you get in touch with your feelings and know the cause of your anger. Expecting your spouse to give an account of his/her personal time is also not a good idea. Give him/her the required space and your spouse will love you forever.

Barging in on your spouse’s private space will cause him/her to distance himself/herself from you.

This holds very true for a man; a man especially becomes very silent when worried or busy with something. At such times it is important to leave him alone. Nagging them or trying to find out what’s wrong, would only irate them

But don’t spend so much time away that your marriage begins to suffer. Strike a balance. Knowing your strengths and weakness will greatly help you build yourself and your marriage.

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