Why Men Resort To Silence Suddenly

Posted on September 7, 2008 in Marriage Problems, Tips for A Wife

There are times in a relationship when men suddenly go very silent.  They are all very sweet and romantic at one moment and at the next are very reserved and lost in their old world.

Reasons For This Behavior

It is very common for a man to resort to this type of behavior. Men are tuned to focus on only one thing at a time. It may be an issue at office, problem at home or some other issue that is really important.

Even if a woman wants to change it she cant because the biological make up of a man is such that he can focus only one thing.

Men are also created in such a way that unlike a woman, they will not share out what’s going on in their mind.

Signs Of Such Behavior

How Women Worsen The Situation

Women on the other hand are very distressed with this situation and keep wondering the reason of their partner’s behavior. They mostly blame themselves for it.

The reason women do this is because they believe that a person will not talk to them or ignore them if they have done something wrong.

Women are tuned to “talking out things”. Communication is a key to solve out any kind of problem whereas for a man silence is the method.

Any kind of communication puts them off and forces them to avoid the woman. This in turn makes the woman more inquisitive and wanting to know things.

The more a woman tries to get closer the more the man avoids her.

The best thing a woman can do is avoid the man and stay away from him during this phase. Also, it would be wise if she wouldn’t get angry with her man for his behavior. A woman  tends to feel used up and avoids the man once he is out of this phase, when all the while she would be waiting for his mail or call. Whereas a man doesn’t seem to understand why the woman is ignoring him all of a sudden. He does not realize that his behavior triggered off that action in the woman.

All this pain and grief can be avoided if a woman simply accepts her man happily once he is out of the silent retreat because men are created in such a way that they will not even realize how much their silence affected the woman. It is not their fault.

However, once a man is his normal self a woman can gently explain him the implications of his behavior. Men when told about certain things definitely try to change and be more accommodating.

Communication is important but what’s more important is the timing in which it is done.
Therefore, it is very important that one give each other space in their relationship in order to live a happy and stress free life.

However, be ready and prepared because men resort to this behavior at least twice in a year, it differs actually from couple-couple.

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