Marriage

Why Women Don’t Like It When Husbands Watch Porn

Many husbands notice their wives losing their temper every time they watch any kind of porn. There is an instant gratification for some men when they watch beautiful naked women on the screen. But have you ever wondered why your wife hates this behavior of yours? Have you tried talking about it with her? If you continue to watch porn, the habit of pornography will ruin your marriage. Do you want to do something about it?

Before doing something about it, let’s consider why wives do not like their husbands watching pornography.

1)      Would you like it if you noticed another man looking sexually at your wife as she walked past them at the mall? In simple words, No!  When other men look at your wife with that pervert gaze, you find yourself boiling. Similarly, when your wife observes you looking sexually at another woman, even via pornography, it causes your wife’s blood to boil as well.

2)      A man watching porn gets excited and receives the same sexual gratification as if he has just had sex with his wife. Women, however, view sex as a form of communication with their spouse. Their sexual gratification is negatively affected when they have been emotionally hurt.

3)      As a result of having received sexual gratification from watching porn, men addicted to porn no longer feel a need to have sex with their wives. Their wives then feel both rejected and sexually unfulfilled, enhancing their hatred for their husbands watching porn.

4)      Another reason wives hate their husbands watching porn is the fear that the children may observe their father’s behavior, no matter how secretly they do things. A mother tries to protect her children from such negative influences and in turn tries to stop her husband from watching porn. According to many studies, children who enter into negative sexual behavior have a parent who is addicted to porn.

Maybe you really never understood why your wife hated pornography so much, but now that you know the reason, if you want to save your marriage, you must voluntarily turn away from your very harmful addiction to porn.

Instead, spend time with your wife and get to know her better. This will not only strengthen the bond between the two of you, but will also bring you more happiness and joy.

11 responses to Why Women Don’t Like It When Husbands Watch Porn

  1. This information was very useful.
    Thank you.

  2. CJ said on May 3, 2009

    I am a woman and I agree. Not only was I deeply crushed when I found out my husband watched porn late at night while I was sleeping, pregnant with our second child, I wanted to die! I was mortified and the low self-esteem I already had became even worse. No wonder we didn’t have a sex life. We didn’t have much of one after our first child was born, even though I lost all the baby weight. Men are jerks. Even married ones.

  3. many women hate sex. thats why the husbands watch porn.

  4. Women do NOT hate sex. You can bet on that. It’s like this article says..Women view sex as communication and probably also as the most vulnerable and intimate thing they could possibly do with another person. Telling your wife or sex partner that you love their body when you have sex and love looking at them BECAUSE it turns you on is a step. But you HAVE to be sensitive to their needs…don’t be a sex crazed pervert! All women are different and like it different ways. Don’t get mad at them..T A L K to them!

  5. I don’t think men should have to stop watching porn. I watch porn myself (both alone and with my boyfriend). I do, however, think that men (and women too) should not get addicted to porn (or romance novels) to the point where it effects their relationship. Also, perhaps watch some porn with your wife which has realistic looking women (i.e. not ugly – just natural and not all teens). A lot of the time, it is threatening to a woman because all the porn women look so much better than us… Of course, they are fake and airbrushed, but it is still depressing.

  6. When Men live alone, porno is an alternate sex life, epecially when they cant find or afford a girlfriend or a house for a wife. When men do get into a relationship there is sex anytime and money doesnt mean anything to women supposedly. Then men are accused of getting the milk without buying the cow so they have to get married. Then the women have their claws in them and the sex decreases. They mother their men and men dont want to have sex with their mother. Sex is contingent on producing the children for the biological clock or keeping up with the joneses and their house and a car for her along with the presents and credit cards to keep her happy. Familiarity breeds contempt, women find a backup male in their life. Men find porno or a fling. If we love someone we should set them free not judge and blame them for our insecurity.

  7. Porn is ruining my marriage. I lvoe my husband very much, but I cannot handle the porn. Yes, it hurts me and my self esteem and he says that I need to deal with my “mental” problem and move on from it. It has been a constant fight for the past year and I do say something about it when I find something. He knows how to turn the issue over to my fault.

  8. I think that men shouldn’t watch porn for the following reasons: 1) if you are not married, you will find a replacement for real sexual life with a spouse, which could lead you to not think seriously about being in a relationship if sex is the significant part of your thinking about any relationship (which is so for many men) 2) for a married man, watching porn will make him compare the porn actress with his own wife, which usually leads to problems because the man will start to think about trying (in sex) other women who could be more beautiful or even could be a better sex partners that the wife. Another factor is that porn actress are usually chosen to be extraordinary beautiful, which makes the man compare the beauty of his wife with them 3) watching porn has always been considered a bad thing by decent people because it is only about the brutish part of humans, which must not overwhelm the other parts.

  9. Women hate porn because they hate sex. So long as they can confine and control their men, rule and limit those men’s sexual appetites, ‘communicate’ that she has an orgasm, or three, or five, and THEN she will think about his, maybe, someday, after the kids are grown, SHE has a ring through his cock and can lead him where she wills to do as SHE wills.
    Now, if he watches porn and starts to think there is a better life out there somewhere, maybe he cuts up the credit cards and saves his money so he can go ‘out there’ and find a real life, one where HE is appreciated for being sexual.
    And she cannot allow that to happen. All that work bearing babies to tie him down, gone to waste? NEVER!!

  10. I’m here becuase my girlfriend just moaned at me about watching porn…tellling me rapists watch porn, she’ll never like it etc…

    …that she knows, I havent watched porn for weeks. I can only assume her period is to blame for bringing this up now, when I’m ill and have alot of work on.

    I’m not wealthy but I spend alot on her and my ‘stepson’ (we’re not married but he’s basically my son), I’m a good dad to her kid, we get on really well…I seem to have a sixth sense about the kinda material stuff she likes and she says she never knew she could have such good sex. It’s by far better with me than with any other guy!

    - I’m not going to gloat –

    The reason I’m so profficent sexually, is becuase I watched alota porn from a young age. I learned. Now I perform well.

    She has kids and I’m not huge. Thus I’ve recently had trouble cumming….I’m not enjoying sex as much as I should and there is pressure to try to cum.

    …I want to be with her forever. I’m not a cheater.

    What am I supposed to do?

    I find her sexy and beutiful, I spent £100′s on sexy clothes, I even bought her a ‘jade egg’ – which she was very upset about and refuses to use – (its supposed to improve sex for us both, I already spent alot on things just for her to enjoy sex so it’s only fair?)

    Sex is very important.

    Those who deny what a huge industry porn is are fooling themselves. I have no wish to upset my missus, but she is upset and I go unsatisfied…that isn’t a situation which is long lasting surely?

    What do you women reccomend?

    (her ex husbands were rubbish in bed, rubbish with the kids and selfish, I couldn’t treat her any better. I just want to enjoy sex as much as…possible!)

    Thanks for any help

  11. SM said on June 25, 2012

    I agree with the article. I would say that I have a good sex life (I have sex pretty much everyday with my boyfriend) but in the past their has been times where I have found porn on his computer. It makes me so upset because I just don’t get it. I have heard men say that it doesn’t mean they don’t love their wives or that they are not happy in their marriage, and they just do it to satisfy themselves. But what I want to know is how is that all right? I think my boyfriend would get mad if I was to look up some big dick hot looking dude and fantasied and touched myself to him, so why is it so widely accepted for men in relationships to jack off over perfect women. All it does is hurt the person they are with. No woman wants to feel not good enough or not beautiful enough. It hurts when you find out that the person you love is spending his time masturbating to woman he doesn’t even know. I think it is because men are selfish and don’t care about what happens. As long as they can jack off to perfect looking women… life is good.

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