Why Your Spouse Does Not Listen To You

Posted on September 22, 2008 in Marriage Problems, Tips for A Husband

Does your husband never listen to you? Is it difficult for both of you to have a decent discussion? Have you ever wondered why this is happening in your marriage?

Well, here are some possible reasons why your husband/wife never listens to you.

1) You beat around the bush when you talk, you directly do not say about what is troubling you, instead you talk about various other things and by the time you get to the point, your spouse is busy doing something else.

2) There are times you notice your spouse not saying a word in a discussion, if you closely notice you would observe that you have been doing all the talking, not letting your spouse say a word.

3) When talking with your spouse just be observant of what you are talking. Are your viewpoints completely opposite about your spouse? If your spouse likes something are u belittling it? Your spouse may avoid listening to you, in order to avoid hearing negative stuff that you would speak about what he/she likes.

4) If you are trying to force your spouse to do something that is important but they don’t like it, they will tune you out of the conversation. You could instead gently explain to them about the importance of the task and tell them how important it is for them to do it.

5) Talking about issues that have already been discussed could force your spouse to avoid you. Are you always talking about what has already happened?

6) The next most important reason why spouses tune you out is because you are talking to them when they are not in the mood, or are busy with some other work. When you really want to talk to them ask them when it could be and then start talking to them.

7) Another reason why your spouse is avoiding you is because you are always talking, so he/she wouldn’t know that what you are talking is important or just another issue. Sometimes let your spouse wait and be eager to hear your voice.

If you were very negative and repetitive in the way you talk, your spouse would not want to talk to you. So, be very careful about the words you choose. Be positive, encouraging, funny and enthusiastic in the way you communicate to him/her. He/She would love to talk to you.

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