How To Empathize With Your Wife

Posted on September 23, 2008 in Marriage Advice

It is very important that you as a husband be very careful when empathizing with your wife. Men are wired to be problem solvers but women are very different, they are very emotional and nurturing. They have every capacity to deal with any situation, a problem, criticisms, work pressure and family crisis. But sometimes they slow down and it is then that they need assurance and confidence from a loved one.

Men also need to understand that this just does not happen once but keeps happening every month. It is common for men to think that they have dealt with the issue, and it wouldn’t be necessary to constantly reassure their wife. But this is not the fact because women need to be consistently and constantly reassured.

Empathizing with a woman is very simple. You wouldn’t have to break your head much. Here are some tips on empathizing with your wife.

1) When you notice your wife in a bad mood, sharing cribbing about the day’s events, stop whatever you are doing and just listen to her. Your favorite sports channel could be tuned off and it would be very good if you would shift your focus from the T.V. and listen to your wife.

2) When she is sharing, empathize with her by saying any of the following

         “Yes I Understand”
         “ Yeah I know Its Hard For You”
         “Oh My Poor Baby, How much you are dealing with”
         “ I know this has been tough”

As you are empathizing with her, hug her, rub her hands and you will see your wife unwinding.

Unfortunately, men on hearing their wife complaining about something, start giving advices. This turns off a woman and she ends up being more frustrated leaving the man more confused then ever.

It is always advisable that men not advise a woman when she is down and is most in need of empathy.

3) Be Patient: Women have a tendency to go back over past hurts. Men find this very irritating and wonder why women cannot get over something that has happened in the past “Why don’t you get over” is something every man tells his wife. Sometimes men need to be patient when a woman tends to go over the past again and again. Give her the space and after she has dealt with what is troubling her, she will come back to you.
Communication and Trust, combined with the above mentioned points would greatly enhance your marriage.
Keep these points in mind and make sure you don’t advise, when your wife needs sympathy.

Keeping a conscious check over how you react to what your wife says will help you be more aware of your reaction to her. Slowly and steadily you will be able to master the art of empathizing and there will come a time when you wouldn’t find it very difficult to relate to your wife.

 

 

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One Response to “How To Empathize With Your Wife”

  1. Sahil Mehan on August 7th, 2009 10:07 pm

    I agree, but do you thing this is enough…Man she is ur wife better be sweet or she will get your upside down…think…..!!! if not think Again

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