How To Keep Marriage Intact Inspite Of Different Work Timings

Posted on September 26, 2008 in Marriage Advice, Marriage Problems

Surviving a marriage in which both the partners have a different time schedule is tough but not impossible.

There are couples whose work timings are completely opposite wherein the husband works night shifts and the wife day, in such cases stress, lack of communication and contact could eat away and break the relationship.

In such a relationship it is important that one be very wary of other factors that could eat into your relationship. Lack of job opportunities, nature of job or interest in a particular field could cause you to work on different lines. However, if one tries these factors will definitely not affect one’s relationship.

Understanding: It is important that one have a mutual agreement about their relationship. Both husband and wife need to understand the nature of job of their spouse and not pressurize them much. Therefore expecting them to do things out of their time frame will affect your relationship in a negative way.

Message Each Other: If talking is a problem, both the partners can keep in touch with each other through messages. In some work places employees cannot make calls, in such cases one can keep in touch through messages. Every time you wake up to go to the toilet, or drink water in the night you could message your spouse if he/she is working night shifts. Once in a while send each other some messages telling that you love and are missing them.

Spend Weekends Together: Spend your weekends together, go out, watch a movie, or stay at home and spend the day lazing around. Make sure that you spend your entire day with your spouse giving him/her all the time required. Don’t make it a habit to work 7 days a week, once in a while it would be okay but not always.

Manage Household Chores: Fights occur in a marriage when one or the other spouse is doing too much of work and the other is doing too less. It is therefore important that both of you decide and divide chores amongst yourself. If you work in the night you could come home sleep for some time and then later do some household chores. Keep the house clean before you leave so that your spouse finds the house spick and span when he/she comes home.

Remember Special Occasions: Since both of you are not together most of the time, try and remember special occasions and make sure you call your partner.

Love and commitment will definitely bond you both together, irrespective of the odds.

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