Posted on October 20, 2008 in Tips for A Husband
Every man ‘wants’ certain things from his wife. Now, ‘wants’ are different from ‘needs’. Just like your basic needs are – food, clothing and shelter and wants are – car, mobile phone, watch and shades.
In a marriage peoples’ basic needs are – the need to love and be loved in return, the need to belong, the need for a worthy self-image and the need for a little space and autonomy.
‘Wants’ would be additional things that people desire and if you take care of your partner’s wants and vice versa this would make your marriage more beautiful and comfortable.
Here is what man ‘wants’-
- Believe in His Capability – Man, by nature, is a provider and protector, it is a part of their mental make-up. To have a wife who believes in his capabilities, talents, skills and decisions and supports him through thick and thin. No man would want his wife to think of him as a loser and thus incapable of leading the family, that would directly attack his need of a worth self-image.
- Understanding – Sometimes you just got to be a little understanding and not be demanding or nagging. Be patient with your husband. You really have to show him that you want to understand him and this you can do by talking to him and making him open up and talk to you.
- Compliment Him – An occasional pat on the back would do wonders for someone who is trying to achieve something. It is very encouraging to tell him that he is working so hard, or he is such a wonderful father, or such a caring husband and you could not have had a better husband than he. Sometimes it is all about pampering your man’s ego a little bit and you can make him feel better about himself.
- Accept Him – Love is all about accepting the person as he is without wanting to change him. You cannot make a marriage successful when you constantly keep threatening a person’s sense of self or individuality. Marriages are successful only when two individuals grow complimentary to each other. Make him give up a habit is one thing but changing him as a person is impossible. Don’t even try doing that.
- Read His Moods – Men talk much less than women. Women can beat around the bush and tell a whole paragraph while men convey their message straight in a short sentence. Sometimes he may not be in a mood to talk or even listen to you, if you may pester him at such a time he may get even more annoyed or go into his shell. Leave him alone sometimes, people sometimes like to mentally sort things alone. If you really wish to cheer him up or relax him, you can give him a nice massage or cook him his favorite dish.
- Respect Him – Men like to lead, so give them that chance. Respect him and give importance to what he wants to say. It is possible that you may not agree with everything he says, but there are subtle and polite ways of telling him you don’t agree instead of just rolling up your eyes and telling him he is crazy.
- Romance Him – Even men like to be romanced and yes they like flowers and poetry too. It would just take a few minutes to let him know that you love him and make him feel special. Just a non-sexual touch in public or holding his hand would do wonders.
Everything in a marriage is always mutual. Taking care of each other’s wants and needs is all that it takes to make a marriage successful.
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