Intmacy in Marriage

Posted on October 21, 2008 in Marriage Advice, Marriage Problems

Intimacy in marriage is not just about having good satisfactory sexual relationship. It means a lot more. A couple is said to be intimate when they share their opinions, feelings, and thoughts with each other without the fear of being judged. They should be at peace and extremely comfortable in each other’s company. It is also strengthened when people spend quality time together having fun and enjoying together.

But how would you be more intimate in marriage?

Be Expressive – Sometimes it works wonders to say little so-called formal things like ‘thank you’ or even ‘I love you’ and make the person feel special and loved. Even a small compliment like ‘You look beautiful tonight’ or ‘That color looks so pretty on you’ can also do the job.

Surprise your Partner – Expected gifts like a book, a music CD or even a red rose, out of any particular reason or occasion can really make your partner’s day. Both of you should break the monotony of daily life and do something new or special each day by surprising each other.

Humor Each Other – Can you imagine food without salt? Bland and tasteless isn’t it. Life without humor is just like that. If you can laugh with each other it means that you both will never get bored of each other. Even simple conversations can be great fun if you can humor each other.

Have Fun Together – If you both are game for outdoor activities, you can go ahead for a spontaneous think like going for a movie, hosting a small party for your friends, hiking, shopping, or even something really simple like washing your car, cooking lunch together, playing cards or scrabble together.

Have Time For Each Other – Sure, you are quite busy with your work and she with hers but you should always have time for each other. Quality time with your partner could be your best stress buster and energizer.

The Power of Touch – Non-sexual touch or gestures like holding hands, sitting close, caressing, cuddling, snuggling, and stroking also help build intimacy between two people. It gives your partner a feeling of being loved and wanted. This kind of feeling deepens the emotional bond you share with your partner.

Keep Your Expectations Low – One of the biggest causes of our sorrow or unhappiness is disappointment. We tend to get disappointed often when we end up expecting too much. Do not burden each other with your expectations. Just let the other person be and see how happy he/she is. Take the person for what he or she is and not for what ‘you think’ of him/her to be.

Do Not Judge – Life is simpler when you stop classifying things into ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ and ‘good’ or ‘bad’. May be you can be judgmental about people when you think of yourself too highly. From a height, everything seems small. So keep yourself grounded for a better perspective in life. Be objective, accept your partner as he/she is and appreciate him/her for that.

Intimacy between marriage forms a good base for a strong marriage.

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