Why Marriages Based On Lust Fail

Posted on November 13, 2008 in Marriage Advice, Marriage Problems

Attraction towards an individual is the first sign of courtship. Attraction can either be towards the physical aspects of an individual or it can be towards the internal qualities of an individual. However, most of the time attraction towards an individual is purely physical in nature. It is either the face, the figure the body, the beauty or the charm that attracts an individual to the other. However if these physical attributes are accompanied with internal qualities like humility, patience, fortitude, respect, empathy and genuineness a relationship is bound to last much longer.

Unfortunately couples these days are so carried away with physical aspects that they end up marrying each other with lust and not love in their hearts. Lust often is mistaken for true love. Lust is an intense feeling to physically devour and experience the other person’s body whereas love is wanting to share every moment of one’s life with their loved one.

 Marriages based on lust are bound to be very exciting in the first few days of marital life, but as days pass on one feels the need for companionship and genuiness in a relation.

Lust is a sign of selfishness and personal interest, when a man or woman enters a marriage purely for satisfying his/her physical desire; they are bound to face disappointment. The whole purpose of marriage itself is based on selfishness and self-interest. Also, later on as a married woman or man  they tend to do things to satisfy their personal gain, things that ought to be done as a couple are done individually.

Marriage is all about understanding, patience and compromise, a selfish individual will never be able to understand the needs of his /her spouse. Marriage is beyond a physical relationship, there is lot of joy and sacrifices involved in this sacrament, and lust will never enable one to enjoy this divine concept.

When a couple start living like individuals, the relationship starts to deteriorate. It starts with the blame game, with the couple blaming each other for the lack of compatibility in the relationship. This then leads to anger and bitterness and finally ends up in a divorce.

The scars of a broken relationship are further carried on to other relations, affecting a individuals whole life. It is therefore very essential that an individual be very clear about the reason for him/her getting into a marriage.

A marriage based on superficial aspects is always bound to fail.

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