Are You Fed Up Of Being Married ?

Posted on November 14, 2008 in Marriage Advice, Marriage Problems

Most of the times couples say this to themselves” Why Did I Get Married? I was Better Off When I Was Single. Being married is something so worthless”

Most of them find marriage so disappointing. But hey hold on before blaming your better who now according to you is your bitter half. Stop! And take a peep into your life.

Before getting married did you fantasize that marriage is going to be bliss? Did you get married with the belief that all your troubles will come to an end? Did you perceive your spouse to be a perfect human being with no flaws at all?

Take some time and introspect, and find out if marriage was a means to escape or was it embraced with an outlook to share grow and deal with life.

Individuals also find marriage a failure because they tend to loose their identity and try to seek it in their spouse. And when they don’t get answers they blame their spouse for it. They are happy when their spouse is happy and they are sad when their spouse is sad. They fail to understand that they themselves are responsible for their own happiness.

Also, they are miserable when they try very hard to create an identity for themselves, forgetting that they are a couple. Both the ways i.e. too much of dependency and too much of independence creates strife in a marriage.

The secret here is to have a balance in being a couple and an individual. There are some things which you, as a couple needs to do together. This fosters love and closeness and there are times when you need to give yourselves some space and try to discover the real you.

Most importantly marriage is a sweet compromise and learning to live with each other’s faults and hurtful comments. Sometimes the pain is too much but learning to communicate and deal with it, will help you live more effectively as a couple.

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