Couples Fighting Over Household Chores

Posted on December 11, 2008 in Marriage Advice, Marriage Problems

One of the many reasons, a couple fight in a marriage is because of division of chores. When one of the spouses does not like doing a particular work there is tension and conflict in the house.

Two major reasons why they fight are as follows

1)    As the spouse does not like doing the particular chore, there will be a delay in the work being completed.
2)    Spouse forgetting to complete the particular work.

These two factors constantly create a ruckus in the house. For e.g. the husband may not like shopping things and wife constantly asks him to buy things while driving back home from office. The husband then either forgets to buy things or avoids buying things. The wife, who is waiting at home for the grocery, is put off when she sees the husband forgetting the required things. This then leads to a major argument amongst the couple.

The wife on the other hand may not like washing the husbands socks, as a result of which she ends up washing all the clothes except his socks. The husband the next day on not finding his pair of socks starts yelling at the wife and this leads to a big fight.

In such cases its best that both husband and wife compromise and resort to any of the following.

1)    Compromise with each other and communicate your true feelings. If the wife does not like washing her husband’s socks, she should ask the maid or her husband himself to wash his socks. The husband on the other hand can ask his wife to do the shopping of grocery, whereas accompany her agree to take her and pick her up from the market.

2)    If both of them do not like doing the task for e.g. washing the toilet then both of them should either do the task together or make an agreement of each one doing the task twice every month.

This way there will be more understanding and lesser fights, with more work done.

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