When Marrying From Different Cultures

Posted on March 3, 2009 in History of Marriage, Love Marriage, Marriage Proposals

When falling in love with a person, one does not see age, color, race, religion, culture, country etc. True love is genuine and crosses all these boundaries. However, in certain cultures and countries, it is extremely important that one marry a person of the same culture and religion. This thinking is based on a value and belief system that has a very strong foundation, which in many cases is very difficult to change.

Still in spite of all these conditions if one is very clear, and wants to go in for a marriage wherein the partner is from a different culture altogether then are certain points that one needs to keep in mind.

These points are important because no matter how deeply you are in love with each other, differences will rise due to the variations in culture. It is but obvious for the couple to have arguments but what is most important is the ability of the couples to think beyond these differences. Here are some points that will prepare you for the petty issues that may arise in your journey together as a couple.

1)    Cultural Expectations: At some point in your married life together, your spouse may have to fulfill some customs, which may be beyond your understanding. Instead of trying to convince your spouse against it, and mocking his/her tradition, allow them to do what is important to them.
2)    Your In-Laws: Sometimes your in-laws may want you to do some customs, which you may be totally against. If the situation is very tricky fulfill these customs to keep the peace in the family. Or else gently deny your in-laws requests without brewing much hard feeling.
3)    Kids In Between: Your Kids may be dragged in to a lot of customs if both you and your spouse are from a rich cultural background. If you think the customs are overwhelming your child, you and your spouse can think a way out of it. Or both of you can come to get together and explain to them the relevance of these cultures.

4)    Taxing: Fulfilling many customs can be taxing. But then fulfilling them for the elders around and your spouse can bring in satisfaction and joy of a different type. If it gets too overwhelming you can discuss it with your spouse and think of an alternative.

Keep these points in mind and work your way towards a beautiful married life.

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