Do Not Involve Yourselves In Your Friend’s Marital Fights

Posted on March 4, 2009 in Marriage Advice, Marriage Problems

When a husband and wife fight, it would be always better if they do not involve their parents or friends in between.

As a friend one would be very worried about their dear one and will strive to do their best to help them out.

It is but genuine to get worried about your married friend who is in trouble but most often what happens is that the couple who fought so bitterly become one, leaving you out of the scenario completely. Thus making you feel more awkward all the more.

Here are some tips on what you should do when both your friend and his/her spouse calls you up and complains against their spouse.

1)    Listen To Them: Either one of them will call you and complain about what happened or both will call you at separate times and vent out themselves completely. In such a situation it would be best if you would empathize with them. Listen t them carefully and tell them you understand what they are going through.
2)    Do not pass judgments: Your friend may force you into saying that he/she is right and that their spouse is wrong or may present the situation in such a way that you feel what they are saying is the truth. In both the situations try your best to remain neutral. Taking sides will cause lot of trouble and may hamper your relationship with the couple in the future because at some point of time your friend may confess to his/her spouse that you as their friend considered him/her to be wrong in a particular situation. Or may be later your friend may not like it that you spoke bad about their spouse.
3)    Do Not Get Worked Up: As friends we tend to get worked up when our dear one’s are in trouble and much to our surprise we later find out that the couple have resolved the fight between themselves and are happy with their life and you are remaining worried about them unknowingly all the time.

Keep these points and never interfere when couples fight. It pays to remain calm and neutral, Check it out for yourself!!

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