What To Do When Very Angry With Your Spouse

Posted on March 6, 2009 in Marriage Advice, Marriage Problems

When very angry with your spouse and irritated, one has the tendency to say something very hurtful or do something that they may regret.

It is very important that one be careful about what they say or do, when upset, because when said or done the words and actions cannot be taken back.

Therefore, here are some tips on what you should do when very angry with your spouse.

1)    Do not speak: When angry, one has a tendency to blabber what comes to one’s mind. Therefore, it is important that one be quiet if one knows they are going to speak the unthinkable.

2)    Do Not Complain About Your Spouse: Do not complain about your wife/husband to any friend or your parents etc. This is like bad mouthing about your spouse, because when you calm down you may forget what you spoke but your friend or parents may not forget what you spoke and may continue to have a negative impression about your spouse.

3)    Calmly State Your Thoughts: You may be very irritated and may go very silent, however, this silence in some cases may irritate your spouse and provoke him/her to speak things which will further instigate you to loose your cool. Therefore, in order to prevent this from happening, you should very calmly state to your spouse that you would speak about the matter later and not at present because you are not in the right frame of mind.

4)    Do Discuss The Matter Later: If you have told your spouse that you would be discussing the matter later, do discuss it, and come to a conclusion. Keep up your word.

These techniques if used will save your marriage from a lot of trouble, thus ensuring lot of peace in your marriage.

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  1. dave stone on October 4th, 2009 9:43 pm

    my father in law drinks a bottle of wine and sits ban talks to his daghter/my wife he drinks a bottle of wine sometimes he gets thats drunkness were he is right on all matters, i get stressed out, i told my wife an her respoinse was deal with it. his woife die serveral years ago we have him over once a week for dinner most times i have to leave the table. i am angry at her because i want it to stop and she thinks nits okay, as of now we had a big fight over this iy is affecting our marriage. what do i do?

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