Are You Fighting Because of Your In-Laws?
It’s been said we don’t marry a person; we marry a family. If you’re married, then you have learned the truth of that saying. Families are as different as day and night, and the chance that you married into a family just like yours is not very likely.
There may be times when you and your spouse will find yourselves fighting about each other’s family. It may seem to you that your spouse feels their family is more important than yours. This may make you angry and you will, in turn, begin listing the faults of your spouse’s family.
These fights may drive you both crazy, so here are some tips on how to avoid fights about family. Instead, resolve to maintain peace between the two of you.
1. Never Degrade the Other’s Family. There may be several reasons why you may not like your spouse’s family. No matter how intense your dislike is for your spouse’s family, make sure that you do not degrade them. Remember that you are married to your soul mate because of your in-laws.
2. Do Not Backbite. Not only should you not speak ill about your in-laws to your spouse, but make sure you are not speaking ill about them to your friends or, most importantly, to your relatives. Your spouse will undoubtedly get wind of it through the “grapevine” and may be very hurt. This, in turn, may affect your marriage.
3. Attend Parties. Some individuals may hurt their spouse by not attending any parties or events hosted by their spouse’s family. This, too, can be very hurtful because it seems to reinforce your feeling that they think their family is more important than yours. So, no matter what, swallow your EGO, attend the party, and keep your spouse happy.
Remember, you married this family so owe them your respect. Once they feel you respect them, they just may return the respect to you.