Are You Fighting Because Of Your In-Laws ?

Posted on March 9, 2009 in Marriage Advice, Marriage Problems

There may be several times in life wherein your spouse and you will fight over about each other’s family. Your spouse may find your family as not worthy of importance and you may get angry over this and start to list out the faults of the other’s family.

These fights may drive both of you crazy. So here are some tips on how you can avoid having fights about each other’s family and resolve and maintain peace between the two of you.

1)    Never Degrade The Other’s Family: There may be several reasons as to why you may not like your spouse’s family. No matter how intense your dislike is for your spouse’s family, make sure that you do not degrade them. No matter what, remember that you are married to your soul mate because of your spouse’s family.
2)    Do Not Backbite: Even if you are not speaking ill about your in-laws to your spouse, make sure you are not speaking ill about them to your friends and most importantly to your relatives. Your spouse will get to know about it by some means or the other and may be very hurt and this may affect your marriage.
3)    Attend Parties: Some individual’s may hurt their spouse by not attending any parties or events hosted by their spouse’s families. This again can be very hurting and cause you both to drift away from each other. So, no matter what, swallow your EGO and attend the party and keep your spouse happy.

These simple steps when followed will bring about lot of peace in the family.

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One Response to “Are You Fighting Because Of Your In-Laws ?”

  1. runuts on June 23rd, 2009 2:03 pm

    1) You are married to your spouse because you chose to marry them. You are not married to your spouse’s family. Let me see that marriage certificate: right, there are two people in a marriage.

    2) Keep that secret. Don’t let anyone know what the ILs are doing, because abuse can only continue if you keep the dirty little secret. Did you know that dysfunctional families rely on secrecy? Exposure for what they really are is the thing they fear most. By playing happy families, you enable them to continue this game.

    3) If you keep playing the game by the ILs rules, and deny your feelings, and keep letting them abuse you, everything will be fine…No one has stood up to them before, so you are expected to lay down and take it, too.

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