2) Keep that secret. Don’t let anyone know what the ILs are doing, because abuse can only continue if you keep the dirty little secret. Did you know that dysfunctional families rely on secrecy? Exposure for what they really are is the thing they fear most. By playing happy families, you enable them to continue this game.

3) If you keep playing the game by the ILs rules, and deny your feelings, and keep letting them abuse you, everything will be fine…No one has stood up to them before, so you are expected to lay down and take it, too.