Mental Preparation for Marriage
Marriage is one of the most important events in our life, and the decision to get married is one of the most critical decisions we will ever make. It is obvious that a lot of thinking, planning and timing are required to create the appropriate state of mind before we make such a decision. This article will help you prepare mentally for marriage.
Our mental preparation before marriage will determine the type of marriage we encounter. The mindset of couples looking for a love marriage is different from the mindset of couples looking for an arranged marriage. At a personal level, men and women face different kinds of challenges while preparing themselves for marriage.
Some basic questions to be answered honestly by the couple, alone and together, before getting married are:
- Are we the right age to get married?
- Are we emotionally prepared to share our space with another person?
- Are we mentally prepared to share the responsibilities of a married life?
- Have we spent enough time with our potential partner?
- Is there compatibility with regard to communication and sharing of feelings with my partner?
- How will my present priorities change and where will they be after marriage?
- Are we making this decision under the influence of any kind of emotional pressure?
- How will our social life and independence change after marriage?
- What role do our gut feelings and intuition play in making such a critical decision in life?
Seeking opinions of your partner from your friends and loved ones may restore faith in your choice and decision. However, this can also backfire and serve to undermine your decision as well, so be careful seeking opinions from others.
Be open when sharing about your past life to your potential partner. Honesty leads to trust, which lays the foundation for a lasting relationship.
The expectations that you have individually about marriage and your partner should be discussed with them thoroughly. This leads to a better understanding of what is in store for you together.
As you meet at mutual consensus on most of the topics of your discussion, you get prepared for the event in a positive manner.