Falling in Love

Falling in love is the best most romantic feeling of the world that any human can have. Love is the gift of God to cherish and live life to its full. Falling in love has many dimensions. Let us understand the psychology of love here.

The psychology of falling in love

There are physiological reflections associated with the sensation of ‘falling in love.’ Love and falling in love are considered as two distinct phenomenons. Falling in love is a sparkle of emotions and a first step to reach towards genuine love.

Falling in love is a potent natural attraction felt by a person towards a person. It may or may not be mutual. Both people work towards the betterment of their relationship, if they feel their love strong. One day the experience called, ‘falling in love’, grows as genuine love.

The phenomena of falling in love is one’s yearning to belong, to brace up, but the purpose is chosen instinctually as per your dreams, ideals and more. All this happens with your even realizing it. The person falls in love with the person’s goodness, appearance, walking style, talking style and even with their sex appeal.

At times we bring to our object of love some strange fancies, illusions and perfect qualities. But gradually, the more you come to know about the person, the less you fall for her or him. This is the situation when the feeling of love goes off as fast as it stuck you.

The better two lovers come to know each other, they become more comfortable. But the falling in love experience becomes less attractive and exciting. Some lovers take the next important step in their relationship and get married. For them falling in love is the beginning of genuine love. But there are also some who bid final goodbye to each other. So, the experience of love is different for each couple.

The stages and science of falling in love

The changes and events that happen in our brain when we feel to be in love have close relation with mental illness. As you get attracted to someone, it becomes possible because in your subconscious you adore their genes. You may like their looks, smell and all these features become the part of the fancy factor. Scientists also believe that one gets attracted to the people who are the most like their parents.

There are mainly three stages to falling in love. In different stage, different hormones play their role.

  • The first stage is of Lust, which is driven by sex hormones oestrogen and testosterone that affect both men and women.
  • The second stage is of Attraction, which is termed as a true love struck phase. A group of Neuro-transmitters play a significant role here. As people fall in love, they think nothing else than love. They may have less food, less sleep and more of day dreaming about their partner.
  • The third stage is of Attachment that takes over the stage of attraction. Attachment brings a long lasting commitment and a bond that keeps the lovers together. Vasopressin and Oxytocin are two hormones released by nervous system that act important role here.