Some aspiring husbands return home at wee hours and are often so exhausted with their workload that they cannot pay enough attention to their wife or children. Managing work and home can therefore be a challenge for the husband as well who may be trying his best to strike a balance but maybe the work is getting the best out of him. Here is how to deal with this situation in a proper way and still be relevant in your husband’s life:

• Put yourself in his shoes: Ask yourself what you would do if you were in his shoes and had to care for your family in this time when we have the economic crisis. This will help you understand him and his work pressures as he’s not doing it intentionally because he wants to stay away from the kids and you but, because he needs to take good care of you. And to do that he has to work hard at keeping his job.
• Talk to him: Communication is very important in making a marriage successful. Tell him about how his work is distancing him from you and kids and how you need to find a way of bridging this gap. To do this, you should make a schedule in that he always spares an hour for the family everyday whereby you watch TV, talk and do chores together. If his busy schedule will still not make this possible, you should decide on him taking a vacation every month so as to spend time with you and be able to re-bond.
• Develop your own interests: This will keep you busy and prevent you from getting lonely when your husband is trying to earn more for you and the family. Join a reading club or a gym or get more involved in your children’s lives by going to games and movies with them. This will keep you and the kids engaged till your busy husband comes home as well as enable the kids to enjoy at-least one of their parents’ attention.
• Stay visible: Always be there to welcome your husband from work with a smile and a kiss. Cook him his favorite food and be ready to listen to him and advise him accordingly. This will make you still relevant in his life so that he does not start taking you for granted. Berating your husband about how he always comes home late and how he does not have any time for his family will only push him further away from you and the kids.
• Learn more about his work: Read about it and even ask him to tell you more about it. With this, you husband will find it easy to discuss his work with you as you understand his world; something that will keep you close as you will be communicating. Later on, you can be able to change the subject and talk about other things. On top of this, he will find it easy to invite you to his office’s social gatherings as you will be able to interact well with his colleagues and their wives.

These tips will not only help you to cope better with a busy husband but, also help to keep your relationship healthy.

• After getting married, you need to have your marriage license forwarded to the registrar general’s office for registration which can be done by the officiant. It’s a requirement for you to be registered before applying for the certified copy of your marriage certificate.
• You can order it on-line, by mail or go in person to the registrar’s office. Whichever method you choose, you will have to provide a photo ID such as your driver’s license, passport or any other certified ID that has your picture. A current letter from a government agency and your utility bills maybe necessary in some states as well. If the application is by mail, you should remember to include a self-addressed stamped envelope so that the certificate is mailed back to you.
• Charges will depend on your choice of application as on-line and mailing ones will have handling fees and you may have to pay using your credit card. In total, you may have to spend anything between $30-$100 for the certificate.
• It may take you a week to 8 weeks to get your marriage certificate depending on both your application method and the state you live in.

This is a general overview of how to get a marriage certificate. Do follow the above guidelines and getting it will go smoothly for you.

• Call the city clerk’s office and make an appointment. If you go without an appointment, you might end up waiting in line for hours.
• You will need to take your driver’s license, birth certificate or other identifying documents. Find out if you do not know the cities and states in which your parents were born not forgetting their full names especially your mothers’ maiden name. You will be expected to fill out these details on the marriage license application.
• If you have been living together as a married couple, you will have to apply for the confidential license. This will enable you to get your marriage publicly recorded.
• You also need to produce your divorce certificate if they have been divorced before. For cases whereby your spouse died, you will have to produce the death certificate of your deceased partner to get the license.
• Carry with you enough money to pay for the license as some counties only accept case. You might as well call in advance to find out about the charges in your county are before stepping out of your house.

With this information on how to get a marriage license in California, you will be able to get your certificate on the same day you go assuming you have all the valid required documents and information with you. More so, you should verify with your local marriage licensing office before making any marriage plans since the licensing requirements may change.

• Identify a county clerk’s office in the county in which you and your spouse were married.
• Research the requirements for your county and state. Some states allow you to apply for a copy by mail while others require you to apply in person for the copy of the marriage license.
• Ensure that you have the proper identification or copies of your identification to include with your request. You may also need to pay a fee, so checkwith the clerk’s office if they accept credit card, check, or cash only.
• It is important to obtain a certified copy of your marriage license, if possible. To obtain a certified copy, you usually have to be present at the office.

It is a good idea to get more than one certified copy of your marriage license.

Communicate
Talk to your spouse about the problem. Ask what behaviors bother your spouse and why your spouse feels this way. Additionally, ask how you can help your spouse overcome their feelings of jealousy. Explain that you are not trying to provoke jealousy in your spouse. Remember, communication is the key to solving problems.

Stay cool
Your spouse’s jealousy may cause him or her to do things which anger you, but try to deal with the situation calmly. Shouting and arguing can make the situation worse.

Build trust
Put yourself in your jealous partner’s shoes. If you also do not like what you feel, maybe you should change your behavior. Act in a way that will put your partner at ease and avoid behaviors that trigger jealousy in your partner. By showing that you care, you will build trust between the two of you. A trusting relationship is less prone to jealousy.

Get professional help
The situation maybe beyond your means to handle as a couple; see a marriage counselor or therapist for help. The therapist will help the jealous spouse deal with his or her emotions and will help you to cope with your spouse’s feelings.

Now that you know how to deal with jealousy in a relationship, use this information wisely to live happily with your spouse and make your marriage last a lifetime.

• When you go out alone, your spouse calls you frequently. This shows that your spouse is trying to keep track of you, and it is a very controlling behavior.
• Your spouse is jealous if he or she finds it hard to accept that you have friends and colleagues of the opposite sex. Your jealous partner always feels uncomfortable when you are talking to or hanging out with your friends and colleagues. You may be subjected to interrogations about friends of the opposite sex.
• A jealous spouse will be uncomfortable when you talk about a celebrity of the opposite sex.
• Your spouse may be jealous if you are not allowed to leave the house without him or her. Your spouse may not be in favor of you going out alone or with your friends.
• A jealous spouse will get angry if you are around attractive people. Your spouse will feel insecure about your attraction and might accuse you of staring at others while you are out.
• Your spouse may act jealous of your family members when they come to visit or get irritated when you talk to your family on the phone.

The above signs indicate that you have a jealous spouse. See the article about How to Deal with Jealousy in a Relationship for further advice.