Why Wine and Dine is required: Cancelling all the prior work commitments once in a while, Arranging a candle light dinner for the spouse, proposing him or her is a refreshing change in relationship. The partners get a moment to once again acknowledge their relationship and commitment for each other amidst daily life stress and chaos. It will be like going back to time and reliving the and cherishing the initial days of their romance.

How Wine and Dine can bring couples closer: The gesture of a spouse to arrange the dinner can bring couples together. But the moments spent, dissolve all the resentments the couples have for each other. In these moments of intimacy, they realize the importance of being married and committed to the most important person in each other’s lives. These moments teach the couples that money, name and fame can assure a luxurious life. But they cannot buy the feelings or change the impressions of their partner about them. In the long run, when the youthful energy will fade away, one will be left with his or her life partner to spend the rest of the days in life. At that stage of life, time will be available. But the appropriate mindset will not be present to get adjusted as per the persona of the partner. And lifelong resentment can completely ruin the manner one feels about his or her partner.

Men’s View: For a gentlemen, Chivalry is part of a package. And that package is his persona. Among a host of excellent masculine qualities, he possess this quality too. Displaying this quality on appropriate occasion is natural to him. There are no expectations or hidden agendas to be met behind his display of this gesture. So chivalry dead or alive makes no difference to a man of honour.

Women’s Perspective: In past, women expected men to possess this quality for obvious reasons. But in today’s world, gender demarcation do not exist. Women do not expect men to be NICE to them. It is enough if they are sensible and conduct themselves properly. The rest is taken care by an able lady of the recent times. It do not make much difference to the competent women whether chivalry is dead or exists any more.

Somethings in life are pristine and untouched: The qualities of a noble, exemplary character are as such. They exist in their own right with complete glory unaffected by change. Their essence is so glorious that embracing them and cultivating these qualities fill our lives with meaning and grace. Chivalry is one such virtue. It is beyond the need for appreciation and fear of death.

What are romantic gestures: In our workplace, we are sedentary without any scope to move out of our cabin. On returning home, complaint of back pain is common. Are we left sensitive enough even after the day’s work, to realize that our spouse is also in a similar conditions ? Do we have the intent to arrange a warm bath for her ? Or it will be wonderful if the couple together enjoy a warm bath. Physical Relief will be provided by the warm water anyways. But it is the emotional relief provided by the warm gesture of the spouse that will be appreciated by the other partner.

Why romantic gestures: Men need, seek and appreciate the act of physical intimacy. For them it is a stress buster, the time to have fun and unwind. Women cherish the moments of physical intimacy. These moments remain with the women for the rest of the day. The experiences she has during these intimate moments with her partner, provide the fuel to go on with her other daily life activities with a healthy state of mind. Love, emotional bondage and all other elements of married life strengthen accordingly.

It make men independent: Men primarily depend on their wives for food. It is a hard time for the men when the wives decide for a trip to their parent’s place. The husbands are left with very little options. They depend on the cheap food items along the roadsides or spend a lot of money as restaurant bills. Learning to cook make them become self reliant and protect their health in the absence of their spouse.

It is handy in the moments of crisis: Cookery lessons taking by men in the early days of their marriage can make their spouse’s life easier during pregnancy. Even after the child’s birth, whenever the wives suffer from ill health, men can cook. This ensures no skipping of meals by the family members. The cost of ordering food items from restaurants can be saved too.

Women find it impressive: There are very few ways by which men can genuinely impress women. By learning cookery lessons, men can win the appreciation of the women for sure. The idea that her partner can share her daily and routine activities is very exciting for any women.

What is this Sorry state: It is natural and beneficial for a healthy married life that the couple converse with each other regularly. The conversation can be related to personal, professional or any other issue. More than the topic, it is the moment spent together that is imperative for the relation in long term. But because of the erratic work schedules the urge to spend some quality time remains suppressed in men and women.

Why this Sorry state persists: The couples have very less time to spend together. A strange sense of urgency creeps in such private moments too. The couple plan and prioritize the issues they want to raise in these moments in prior. And such moments arrive, all gates of the flood are let loose. Instead of pleasantly sharing some moments of intimacy, the couple become more talkative.

How to overcome this Sorry state: It is a matter of realization and choice to make. The couple should realize that family bond and materialistic satiation by following corporate job and life style do not go hand in hand. In the larger interest of the relation and the family, any one spouse has to take the back seat and ensure his or her presence at home after the partner returns from work. The effort should be provide appropriate ambiance and comfort to the tired partner after the day’s work. With such pleasant conditions at home, one partner will be eager to listen and the other will be prepared to talk rather than become more talkative. The choice to play such a role should be voluntary.

Why are Silent Moments: Amidst the chaos of daily life activities and stress, these are the moments when the two partners find themselves in each other’s arms. They relax and experience some tender moments of touch, care and pamper. Women especially are responsive to such moments. They look forward to such moments the whole day. These moments make the partners realize the bliss associated in being married.

What are Silent Moments: These special and private moments can be spent by listening to music, enjoying pillow fights or by sharing a glass of wine together. The intention should be to experience the presence of the partner strongly. It is this experience a couple misses a most in recent times. These are moments of appreciation and topics of conflicts should be strictly kept at bay.

How we respond to Silent Moments: Mostly men look forward to physical intimacy in these special moments. Women however expect sharing of experiences and lots of talking. Recentments take place when the partners do not possess the knowledge about each other’s expectations and responses. These special moments should involve both, verbal and physical intimacy, as par the convenience of the couple.

Women need Pampering: Feelings in women about themselves change like the tides in the sea. They need lots of attention and reassurance about them consistently. Pampering is the way of providing these needs. Men can learn to pamper by ignoring the small mistakes and vices of their wives.

Women need Quality Time: The intimacy between the couples is an essential factor for the women well being after marriage. It can be increased when men start spending quality time with their wives. They should share their everyday experiences with their spouse. It can be practiced by carefully prioritising everyday work schedule of the men and by realising the significance of spending time with their wives. In this way, women mood swings can be reduced.

Women need to be Listened to: Talking is an avenue of relaxation for the women. Whether they are worried or simply curious, they would like to talk and share the news or information. Men who are little considerate and patient enough to hear what women have to say are well appreciated. If general conversation involves wit and humor, the women can be found always in their elements leaving no room for women mood swings.