ygoy.com Blog Just another WordPress weblog 2009-11-19T11:18:22Z WordPress http://marriage.ygoy.com/feed/atom/ Administrator http:// <![CDATA[Top 5 Common Marital Problems]]> http://marriage.ygoy.com/?p=822 2009-11-19T11:18:22Z 2009-11-19T11:18:22Z Marital problems are very common in every married couple. Some problems are small and can be easily solved, whereas some are big and can let to divorce. So, let’s find out 5 most common marital problems that can be avoided to make a happy married life.

Communication is one of the most common marital problems, which is been faced by many couples. It is a huge and most difficult thing to describe with regard to marriage. The problem starts when husband and wife start mis-understanding each other and not able to communicate the right thing to each other. Husband and wife both stop listening and understanding each other.

Unfulfilled Expectations is another major problem in a marriage. One enters into a married life with lot of expectations and instead turns into a bag of disappoints because of unfulfilled expectations. The cause can be many things like indifference, compatibility etc

Sex and Intimacy are another common problem in a marital relationship. There is always a chance that one may not be sexually compatible with his or her partner. This is when a problem crops up and make it a marital issue.

Unspoken Resentments are like slow poison which slowly undermine the love, trust that was once in the relationship. This is tough to solve as they are unspoken and unknown.

Time Share: Today in this fast world, couple usually get busy with their work and get little time to spend with each other. Lack of quality times can also become a major marital problem, if it is not treated at its earliest.

]]> 0 Administrator http:// <![CDATA[Symptoms of an Unhappy Marriage]]> http://marriage.ygoy.com/?p=818 2009-11-16T12:22:23Z 2009-11-16T12:21:41Z Both love marriages and arrange marriages can turn into unhappy marriages. But the question is how do we recognize the symptoms of an unhappy marriage in the initial stage so that it do not end up into a separation or divorce.

How to know your marriage is in trouble?

1) When partners start using abusive languages and names to insult and hurt each other, you know your married life is on the rocks. May be this satisfy your anger, but do you think this is a good idea? It not only lead to bad marriage but also other health issues like depression, stress etc.

2) Next symptom is to avoid having dinner or supper together with the family. Dinner time is usually the family time, when all the family members get to spend time with each other.

3) When both wife and husband going for the same event individually and not together. Another sign is, husband and wife attending the event, but arriving and leaving the venue at a different time.

4) One of the usual and common symptom is , when both wife and husband feel that their respective work and job is more important than each other.

5) When one stop thinking and listening to their partner

6) When there is no more love and passion in the relationship, you know that the marriage is in trouble.

7) When there is a lack of proper communication between husband and wife.

8) When couples stop sharing their thoughts with each other.

]]> 0 Administrator http:// <![CDATA[Love Marriage Vs Arrange Marriage]]> http://marriage.ygoy.com/?p=816 2009-11-14T11:51:47Z 2009-11-14T11:51:47Z There has been always a debate between love marriages and arrange marriages. Which one is the best and last long? Well, I don’t think there is a proper answer to this, as it depends entirely upon oneself and one’s relation.

Love Vs Arrange

  • One of the benefits of arrange marriage is that it provides a good support from the parents and family members, whereas a love marriage may not or may have this privilege.
  • In love marriage you know and understand your life partner beforehand. So you get to have certain comfortable level in the relationship. In case of an arrange marriage, you don’t get to know each other that well before the marriage and only get this opportunity after you have tied the knot.
  • Love marriages are not always a happy marriage; there are also certain issues that pop up in a love relation. In this case arrange marriage benefits from experiences of elders in the family.
  • There has been always an argument on the independence and freedom level in arrange marriage and love marriage. According to many people, the independence level is much low in an arrange marriage when compare to a love marriage.

According to me, a successful marriage do not need to be an arrange or love marriage. It just needs trust, love and compromise. If you and your partner have these three elements in your relation then trust me, you will be one of the happily married couples in this world.

]]> 0 Administrator http:// <![CDATA[Why Couples Need Moments to Wine and Dine]]> http://marriage.ygoy.com/2009/11/13/why-couples-need-moments-to-wine-and-dine/ 2009-11-13T11:21:58Z 2009-11-13T11:21:15Z In today’s world the husband and wife do not get time to spend together. Materialistic needs have become the priority over human emotions. Vacuum in relationships is the price couples are ready to pay for prosperity. Even if there are moments when the couples meet, the discussions are mostly about household matters. So are wine and dine moments left for couples in recent times? This article tries to gain further insight.

Why Wine and Dine is required: Cancelling all the prior work commitments once in a while, Arranging a candle light dinner for the spouse, proposing him or her is a refreshing change in relationship. The partners get a moment to once again acknowledge their relationship and commitment for each other amidst daily life stress and chaos. It will be like going back to time and reliving the and cherishing the initial days of their romance.

How Wine and Dine can bring couples closer: The gesture of a spouse to arrange the dinner can bring couples together. But the moments spent, dissolve all the resentments the couples have for each other. In these moments of intimacy, they realize the importance of being married and committed to the most important person in each other’s lives. These moments teach the couples that money, name and fame can assure a luxurious life. But they cannot buy the feelings or change the impressions of their partner about them. In the long run, when the youthful energy will fade away, one will be left with his or her life partner to spend the rest of the days in life. At that stage of life, time will be available. But the appropriate mindset will not be present to get adjusted as per the persona of the partner. And lifelong resentment can completely ruin the manner one feels about his or her partner.

]]> 0 Administrator http:// <![CDATA[Is Chivalry Dead in Men or still Appreciated by Women]]> http://marriage.ygoy.com/2009/11/12/is-chivalry-dead-in-men-or-still-appreciated-by-women/ 2009-11-12T07:35:16Z 2009-11-12T07:34:07Z The word Chivalry underwent change in its meaning over the centuries. It means display of courteous behavior towards women by men in today’s world. But such gesture are taken in bad taste by women. It is fair enough for women to possess ego like men. And chivalry may threaten the women’s ego. Men are experiencing such signs from women off late. So, is Chivalry dead in men or still appreciated by women ? This article tries to gain further insight.

Men’s View: For a gentlemen, Chivalry is part of a package. And that package is his persona. Among a host of excellent masculine qualities, he possess this quality too. Displaying this quality on appropriate occasion is natural to him. There are no expectations or hidden agendas to be met behind his display of this gesture. So chivalry dead or alive makes no difference to a man of honour.

Women’s Perspective: In past, women expected men to possess this quality for obvious reasons. But in today’s world, gender demarcation do not exist. Women do not expect men to be NICE to them. It is enough if they are sensible and conduct themselves properly. The rest is taken care by an able lady of the recent times. It do not make much difference to the competent women whether chivalry is dead or exists any more.

Somethings in life are pristine and untouched: The qualities of a noble, exemplary character are as such. They exist in their own right with complete glory unaffected by change. Their essence is so glorious that embracing them and cultivating these qualities fill our lives with meaning and grace. Chivalry is one such virtue. It is beyond the need for appreciation and fear of death.

]]> 0 Administrator http:// <![CDATA[How Important are Romantic Gestures between Couples]]> http://marriage.ygoy.com/2009/11/10/how-important-are-romantic-gestures-between-couples/ 2009-11-10T07:27:28Z 2009-11-10T07:21:42Z There are moments in the day for the couple when their is silence and yet the communication is on. Such moments are meant for romantic gestures between the partners to take place. It is true that the responsibilities and tensions of life do not leave any time for such activities in recent times. But we must realize that it is the absence of these very moments in marriage which is responsible for some real tensions and resentments between the husband and the wife. This article tries to gain some further insight in to the matter.

What are romantic gestures: In our workplace, we are sedentary without any scope to move out of our cabin. On returning home, complaint of back pain is common. Are we left sensitive enough even after the day’s work, to realize that our spouse is also in a similar conditions ? Do we have the intent to arrange a warm bath for her ? Or it will be wonderful if the couple together enjoy a warm bath. Physical Relief will be provided by the warm water anyways. But it is the emotional relief provided by the warm gesture of the spouse that will be appreciated by the other partner.

Why romantic gestures: Men need, seek and appreciate the act of physical intimacy. For them it is a stress buster, the time to have fun and unwind. Women cherish the moments of physical intimacy. These moments remain with the women for the rest of the day. The experiences she has during these intimate moments with her partner, provide the fuel to go on with her other daily life activities with a healthy state of mind. Love, emotional bondage and all other elements of married life strengthen accordingly.

]]> 0 Administrator http:// <![CDATA[How Men taking Cookery Lessons can benefit their Wives]]> http://marriage.ygoy.com/2009/11/09/how-men-taking-cookery-lessons-can-benefit-their-wives/ 2009-11-09T08:05:49Z 2009-11-09T08:04:17Z In the present world, there is practically no demarcation between the roles played by a husband and a wife in the family. Both are proving themselves to be competent and successful in the responsibilities which were gender specific earlier. And the benefits are aplenty. One such responsibility is cooking. Men earlier enjoyed cooking as favourite past time. But off late they are realising that learning to cook can help them in unexpected ways. This article tries to understand the benefits men can have by taking cookery lessons.

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It make men independent: Men primarily depend on their wives for food. It is a hard time for the men when the wives decide for a trip to their parent’s place. The husbands are left with very little options. They depend on the cheap food items along the roadsides or spend a lot of money as restaurant bills. Learning to cook make them become self reliant and protect their health in the absence of their spouse.

It is handy in the moments of crisis: Cookery lessons taking by men in the early days of their marriage can make their spouse’s life easier during pregnancy. Even after the child’s birth, whenever the wives suffer from ill health, men can cook. This ensures no skipping of meals by the family members. The cost of ordering food items from restaurants can be saved too.

Women find it impressive: There are very few ways by which men can genuinely impress women. By learning cookery lessons, men can win the appreciation of the women for sure. The idea that her partner can share her daily and routine activities is very exciting for any women.

]]> 0 Administrator http:// <![CDATA[Are Erratic Work schedules making Couples become more Talkative]]> http://marriage.ygoy.com/2009/11/06/are-erratic-work-schedules-making-couples-become-more-talkative/ 2009-11-06T09:21:55Z 2009-11-06T09:08:51Z In today’s world, both men and women work. The work schedules in the corporate world are mostly erratic. There are clashes between the daily life activities of the partners. They do not get much time to spend together and weekly offs are mainly spent on some much needed sleep and rest. When the partners finally manage some time to spend together, they become more talkative and less responsive.

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What is this Sorry state: It is natural and beneficial for a healthy married life that the couple converse with each other regularly. The conversation can be related to personal, professional or any other issue. More than the topic, it is the moment spent together that is imperative for the relation in long term. But because of the erratic work schedules the urge to spend some quality time remains suppressed in men and women.

Why this Sorry state persists: The couples have very less time to spend together. A strange sense of urgency creeps in such private moments too. The couple plan and prioritize the issues they want to raise in these moments in prior. And such moments arrive, all gates of the flood are let loose. Instead of pleasantly sharing some moments of intimacy, the couple become more talkative.

How to overcome this Sorry state: It is a matter of realization and choice to make. The couple should realize that family bond and materialistic satiation by following corporate job and life style do not go hand in hand. In the larger interest of the relation and the family, any one spouse has to take the back seat and ensure his or her presence at home after the partner returns from work. The effort should be provide appropriate ambiance and comfort to the tired partner after the day’s work. With such pleasant conditions at home, one partner will be eager to listen and the other will be prepared to talk rather than become more talkative. The choice to play such a role should be voluntary.

]]> 0 Administrator http:// <![CDATA[How Silent Moments between Couples enhance Intimacy]]> http://marriage.ygoy.com/2009/11/04/786/ 2009-11-04T06:58:33Z 2009-11-04T06:52:06Z In today’s world of hectic life, erractic work schedules of a couple, do not allow them to spend some quality moments with each other. Lack of silent moments in their lives reduce the appreciation a couple should have for each other. The role played by such moments to strengthen intimacy is getting underrated these days. This article tries to understand the significance of these special moments of life.

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Why are Silent Moments: Amidst the chaos of daily life activities and stress, these are the moments when the two partners find themselves in each other’s arms. They relax and experience some tender moments of touch, care and pamper. Women especially are responsive to such moments. They look forward to such moments the whole day. These moments make the partners realize the bliss associated in being married.

What are Silent Moments: These special and private moments can be spent by listening to music, enjoying pillow fights or by sharing a glass of wine together. The intention should be to experience the presence of the partner strongly. It is this experience a couple misses a most in recent times. These are moments of appreciation and topics of conflicts should be strictly kept at bay.

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How we respond to Silent Moments: Mostly men look forward to physical intimacy in these special moments. Women however expect sharing of experiences and lots of talking. Recentments take place when the partners do not possess the knowledge about each other’s expectations and responses. These special moments should involve both, verbal and physical intimacy, as par the convenience of the couple.

]]> 0 Administrator http:// <![CDATA[How to Deal with Women Mood Swings]]> http://marriage.ygoy.com/2009/10/31/how-to-deal-with-women-mood-swings/ 2009-11-02T05:41:47Z 2009-10-31T06:48:43Z Mood swings in women is a natural things. The reasons are aplenty and non specific, from the weather conditions to breaking of their nails. The poor men face the consequences of women mood swings. The best way to curb this menace is to keep the women happy and contended. This article tries to make the life easy for men.

Mood Swings

Women need Pampering: Feelings in women about themselves change like the tides in the sea. They need lots of attention and reassurance about them consistently. Pampering is the way of providing these needs. Men can learn to pamper by ignoring the small mistakes and vices of their wives.

Women need Quality Time: The intimacy between the couples is an essential factor for the women well being after marriage. It can be increased when men start spending quality time with their wives. They should share their everyday experiences with their spouse. It can be practiced by carefully prioritising everyday work schedule of the men and by realising the significance of spending time with their wives. In this way, women mood swings can be reduced.

Women need to be Listened to: Talking is an avenue of relaxation for the women. Whether they are worried or simply curious, they would like to talk and share the news or information. Men who are little considerate and patient enough to hear what women have to say are well appreciated. If general conversation involves wit and humor, the women can be found always in their elements leaving no room for women mood swings.

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