Comments on: How To Deal With An Alcoholic Husband?

By: Dawn

Dawn — Thu, 08 Oct 2009 23:53:08 +0000

I know what you are all saying. I left my first husband after 16 years because of alcohol. I am about to leave my 2nd of 3 years because of alcohol. What is it about me that attracts the alcoholic? I wish I knew. They never stop, they keep on drinking. Leave, don’t leave…it is all the same to them. I am sad that it has come to this again. The alcoholic cannot care about anyone but themselves. It is the alcohol that defines them. It is the alcohol that controls them.

By: Chris

Chris — Sun, 20 Sep 2009 19:00:12 +0000

My husband and I are splitting after 10 years of marriage, he comes home from work and and 5-15 beers a night, we have a 7 year old. My fear is him drinking alone with my child, what do I do to stop this. I am affraid for my sons saftey.

By: keira

keira — Fri, 18 Sep 2009 12:47:31 +0000

My husband of one year drinks 2 bottles of red wine everynight – he is a professional, good looking – however, aging before his time. He is very angry and misunderstands conversation most of the time (to be negative). He mentions killing himself occassionally and is not a very happy person. He is abusive to me whenever he can. He is nicer in front of other people as he competes with me and even thinks my family like him more than me, when they really think he has no class. I am a bit scared of leaving him not sure how abusive he will become? Every other night I feel scared with the loud abuse. He is very controlling about me as if he owns me. I really want to leave him – however, I want to do it the safest way – I have no family here as I moved interstate to be with him. Any suggestions appreciated. I have gone to a couple of Al non meetings and I noticed that living with an alcholic – has a really bad effect on the non alcholic’s health. God Bless

By: dianne in burlington

dianne in burlington — Tue, 08 Sep 2009 19:14:24 +0000

I have been living with an angry man that has a drinking problem for 30 years I have left him 5 or 6 times I wanted to more times that I can count including now. He always sobers up and begs me to come back home. I wished I could tell you why I do. Plese tell me if a restraining order would be a good idea when I leave again. I don’t want him begging or getting angry. Thanks alot

By: monica woods

monica woods — Sun, 23 Aug 2009 01:40:27 +0000

i been married for fourteen years my husband has a drinking problem and does not want to admitt to it please pray for me and my family

By: JJ

JJ — Sun, 09 Aug 2009 03:23:35 +0000

Destiny – What do you mean he spunk you and your mother?

By: JJ

JJ — Sun, 09 Aug 2009 03:15:31 +0000

I’m a bit annoyed because on July 5th, I wrote something else that was never printed here. It was an extension of what I wrote the day prior. What I said was this…. I went to church the day after my first comment, on July 5th, and the preacher talked about giving each other Grace and Mercy. It was exacly what I was asking God!! I asked, what do I do Lord? Do I leave or do I stay? He answered my prayers through the preaching that day. Unless there is physical abuse to you or your kids, I believe we must give our husbands grace and mercy. That’s what God gives us every day. Although we don’t sin in the same way as our husbands do, we are all indeed sinners. I have been so blessed by going to a Bible believing church. What I have learned from God’s word is how to live. It’s the “How to” book we are all looking for. It’s a process, but a wonderful one. Not only that, but you will meet some wonderful people who will pray for you and help guide you based on God’s ways. Prayer is the most powerful weapon againt this disease. If you lead by example, at the least, your children will be saved. But I guarantee you, in time, your husband will want the peace and faith that you have. But you must first find it yourself and live it. There is nothing more powerful than a praying wife and a praying mother and living by example. Those prayers do not go unheard or unanswered. However, it may not be in our timing. Remember God’s timing is always perfect. You may not find the perfect church right off the bat. (by the way, there is no such thing as a perfect church because they are run by human beings- only God is perfect) But, That’s ok. There is nothing wrong with visiting a few before you find the right fit. Just make sure it is a Bible based, Bible reading church. Also, I advise you to watch Joyce Meyer. She has helped me tremendously!! She is a no nonsense woman who has crawled up from the depths of hell. She was molested for years by her father and through God she found grace, mercy and forgiveness. She now has a ministry that helps millions of people in the U.S as well as all over the world. Watch her and listen to her. She will quote scripture and make it come alive!! Blessings………I do know what your going through….JJ

By: Destiny

Destiny — Wed, 15 Jul 2009 07:00:40 +0000

My husband is an alcoholic..we’ve been together for 3 yrs. now and with one child..i’m afraid that our daughter will be affected..everytime he was drunk i’ll try to be silent but sometimes i can’t control myself to talk..the worse is i’m working and everyday he’s at home taking care of our daughter but most of the time he is also addicted with computer games..and when I comfronted him about his playing games in computer his mad at me. Not only that he spunk me and also my mother..please help me..

By: Melissa

Melissa — Tue, 14 Jul 2009 04:15:04 +0000

I have been married for 6 years and have 3 kids with my husband,his drinking is all he cares about and he makes promises to stop drinking but never keeps them.I’m a home maker and not sure that I can make it on my own with 3 young kids,so how can I help save my marriage and help my husband to stop drinking for good.I don’t drink at all and have been trying to follow God and make my life and most important my kids lives better and happy,but I don’t want our marriage ending to be the way out and I want to be sure I have done everything I can to save this marriage.Please help?

By: JJ

JJ — Sat, 04 Jul 2009 03:15:36 +0000

It seems like we are all in the same boat. The only answer is God. Pray, pray and more prayers. However, with this said, I am going to ask my husband to leave and then I will pray that he can be free of this demon forever and then pray that we are reunited. He can either get better or he kill himself. In either case, it is ultimately his decision. I cannot take responsiblity for his actions. Every action has a consequence. Every bad choice will have a negative outcome, and a good choice will create a positive results. Trust me when I say, none of us are to blame. Let me give you example’s. My husband worked many, many hours as a floor installer to support me staying home with my 2 daughters. My husband would say, he needed to drink because he worked to much. Then it was because I didn’t give him enough attention, or not enough affection. Then he said he didn’t feel loved. Then when the flooring business slowed down, he said he drank because he didn’t have enough work and he felt financial pressure. Let me just say, it has nothing to do with me. Here’s proof. After 12 years of being home with my children, I went back to work and recently, have made enough money so that he only had to work part-time (that was a gift from God from many many prayers) We recently took a wonderful trip to Europe. I have given him more attention than ever and he finally admitted to me that his drinking has nothing to do with me. He just can’t stop and it was easier for him to blame it on me than to face the truth….that he is an out of control alcoholic. So there you have it. The blame is not ours to accept ..that was freeing. Sadly and unfortunately, he can’t seem to break free from these chains of alcohol in the comfort of his own home. We have a beautiful home in the country. 2 wonderful athletic and smart daughters. Everything anyone would hope for. YET!! He can’t stop. Therefore, I do believe tough love is the answer for us. I have been praying for this answer and I believe this may be it……….. Know that there is nothing any of us can do except to pray. God Bless.