One of the warning signs of domestic abuse also known as spousal abuse whether verbal or not is the frequent use of abusive language and a frustrated and intolerable behavior by a partner. It usually occurs in an intimate relationship or marriage where one tries to dominate and control the other personâ€™s views and perceptions.
The wife or the husband can be the victim of abuse, whether mental, emotional or physical abuse. The abuser however, never plays a fair game here. A mental and emotional abuse is actually a reflection of the underlying guilt, fear, intimidation or insecurity in a person which he or she is trying to release and rid himself or herself off by inflicting pain and suffering on the other. So, any form of abuse in a marriage is actually a selfish and a sadistic behavior.
Forms of mental and emotional abuse:
Mental or emotional abuse can take place in varied situations like these:
- Extramarital affairs
- Excessive criticism suffered at the hands of your spouse
- Excessive humiliation
- A provoking tendency of your partner
- Miscommunication or refusing to communicate at all
- Sarcastic and taunting comments
- Unreasonable jealousy
- Reduced affection and intimacy
- Frequent mood swings
- Deliberately isolating and ignoring the partnerâ€™s presence and needs
- Continuous threats
Cycles of domestic abuse: Mental, Emotional or Physical
Mental or physical abuse gradually tends to acquire a cycle of events and behavioral patterns very distinct to a person inflicting suffering on the other. They include the following:
- A constant effort to show the other that he or she is the boss of the house.
- Resorting to fear and guilt about others coming to know of his or her abnormal behavior.
- The abuser is always aware of what he or she is doing and also recognizes them to be wrong. So he or she is well equipped with justifications and excuses.
- The abuser will always behave in a way that he or she is normal and there is nothing going wrong.
- There is always a tendency to plan and set things up to blame, fight and hurt the partner.
Tips to recover and end mental or emotional abuse:
Experts suggest some practical ways to recover from and to put an end to mental and emotional abuse. They include the following:
- Recognize the warning signs of domestic abuse and free yourself from them
- Try to heal the old bruises
- Respect each other
- Try doing things your spouse likes more often
- Respond with a relaxed outlook or character
- Realize your own capabilities and wants
- Fight to achieve peace and love in your relationship
- Try breaking the cycle of events and behavior
- Bestow the seeds of a doubtless and an unconditional love
- Develop and initiate more intimacy
- Cope with the circumstances while your partner grows out of it
If as a partner you can make a positive difference to the relationship then never give up and fight to stay together. But when you cannot handle things then you need to get out of the situation soon. Also reporting domestic abuse can be of much help for the couple, so always intimate concerned people about it.